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Hey guys, I've been feeling great and seeing results. My inner game has really improved and numbers have just been rolling into my phone. I'm going to fill you in on my most recent encounter and try to explain where I've made improvements along the way.
For starters, I feel like the man. Haha. I feel like whenever I go out, people around me want to know me, talk to me, meet me. I don't feel like this because I'm super special, talented, or witty. It's the case because I'm unapologetically honest and real. I'm totally confident in my approach and in how I hold myself...it has made all of the difference.
For example, there is no such thing as approach anxiety. If you find yourself having approach anxiety, you are likely doing something wrong, not allowing yourself to be comfortable in your own skin. When I speak to someone, it is not important what I say to them, it can be "hi" or any number of things that are contextual... what is important is that I show them my vibe and allow them to match it. This can only come from unwavering confidence in yourself.
If you say something to a girl or a table of people and they respond with negative energy, it must not affect your vibe. You are the rock of good energy that they must match. Its amazing how many people that have negative defense mechanisms are immediately disarmed by simply not being affected by them.
Okay so on to what actually happened: I went to this concert with my friends the other day, wednesday. My friends aren't in the same boat as I am, that is to say... they are open to talking to other people but won't often 'put themselves out there' in the same way I imagine TDD guys do--at least not the way I do. An example of this is going to the bar to get a drink, on the way over I smile to a few girls and they smile back, but I'm getting a drink, so i keep moving. I see a spot next to a pretty girl and i settle in, say something to her, order a drink, and chat with her for a while. Foreshadow to seeing her on the dancefloor/cooking food with her sometime and then tell her i need to go back to my friends. This girl was totally interested, but I didn't care to follow up with her, if I had seen her again I'm sure it would have been on... but the fact that I didn't care is probably exactly what attracted her in the first place.
So I eventually start dancing with this other girl as the band is playing, talk to her about mundane things. What is important here is that when approaching her I was letting her into my world of fun. My body language and vibe were extremely important, it was difficult to hear so at a high point in our interaction I told her to come outside.
She said not right now. My response was something like, "oh so this must be your favorite song?" knowing well that she had no idea who the band was. We laughed together and she came out with me after the song.
We talked about random things like muffins. I was insinuating things sexually or teasing her whenever I got the chance. We exchanged numbers and foreshadowed doing something together but I forget what. The feature band played and I left her to dance, enjoy myself, talk to other people. At the end of the show I saw her again. I foreshadowed meeting at an oktoberfest at the end of the weekend (we met on a wednesday). It was on.
The next day I texted her something about eating a muffin, got one back, didnt respond to it.
Sunday rolls around and its totally on. I had foreshadowed this event to a few other girls throughout the week so my phone was pretty wild. I called her and met her, I immediately introduced her to my friends and took her by my side. Lots of playing and touching, foreshadowing fried dough and eating it like lady and the tramp. Just being fun, sexual, and confident.
When we got to one of the open beer gardens is where I really demonstrated social proof. Before I got there, nobody was dancing. When I left, more than half the fenced off area was getting wild.
I literally had my pick of all of the girls there, it was tough to stick with the girl I was with. I would look around and see guys just standing there, holding their beers chest high and not having fun. That wasn't what I was doing. Its hard to explain what I was doing.. because there were so many little things that were so spurr of the moment. For example, I had it going so that if I put my finger on someones head, they would spin around. We were all just having fun. When I left to go to the bathroom, I had multiple people stop me asking me why I was leaving and telling me to stay.
I had girls coming up to the girl I brought and saying how aweeesome she was and how awweesome we were together. Haha! When the girl I brought wasnt around these girls flocked to me. One girl came up to me to tell me how much fun I was and how i was her favorite person, haha
So what allowed me to be so successful in this situation? First off, eye contact. Look at who you are interacting directly in the eyes! When you do this, make sure you vibe with them. They need to know that you are congruent! You are comfortable with who you are and you're happy with who you are! Smile. Try to relate to them somehow, nonverbally. When I do this it feels like I'm checking in with a person, letting them know I see them and acknowledge them. Its very tough to describe, but basically... youre saying "hi!"
Anyway, Its very powerful stuff. Numbers materialized out of nowhere. But I had to focus. Too many girls, too little time, haha.
We came back to my place, walked to get some food. When we got back with the food we could have watched a movie with my friends but I ended up bringing her to my room instead. I didn't plan it, I just felt like doing it at the time.
I like to name some key points after I post, so lets see what was important..
-Being confident. I can't say enough about this. It is in your walk, its in your posture, its in your eyes and its all over your vibe. To be confident is to say and do what you want, when you want. If you arent confident in yourself how can you expect anyone else to be? Look someone in the eyes and be present.
-Releasing the need. You might lose a few prospects because of this attitude, but it is a very empowering and attractive mindset to want and not need. There is a fine line, but essentially you must actually be okay with not being with the girl. It's win or lose, and sometimes its lose.
-Foreshadow. This plants a seed for the next encounter! Its priceless! You automatically have something set up and all you need to do is mention it. Then you just sort of expect it to happen. If it does, win.
Take care everyone.
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