"you've gotta be smoother than that boy." i laughed, what a snazzy bitch, i thought.

i never would've expected her to say this. not when i opened her with possibly the most unconventional opener i've ever used. in the midst of disarming Psyche from Josh's set (haha that was funny!), i glanced over my shoulder and saw this girl HBV checking me out. i was hiding from this other chick HBtall because i didn't want her to think im orbiting since she had "eyes" all over the place.

I turned back to Psyche and talked a lil more. I glanced over my shoulder again and i see HBV looking over at me again. "that's it, she looks over at me again im gonna nail this chick tonight!" so i turn back to psyche and talked a lil more. i turned around once more and faced her completely this time. she gave me a quick glance and turned away when she realised that i was locked onto her. 100% COMMITMENT, the vibe of a CHAMPION.

i took 3 steps and she was about 8 steps away from me. she was at the lower bar of zouk and i was at the walkway that lead to the bar from the entrance. i squatted down and stared straight at her, eyebrow raised and with my "whats up?!?!" face. she laughs. i raise my index finger at her and threw out my opener. "i think i know you."

she left her set of 5 friends and walked over to me. she thinks for a while and before she speaks and i interupt by saying, "gimme a huggg! it's been a while!!!" we hug and i hold her in my arms.

Xavier : honestly, i actually don't know you.

HBV : omg and i was actually embarassed that i forgot about you!

Xavier : haha okay, allow me to introduce myself. im Xavier.

HBV : im HBV.

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we got into a 20 minute interaction and she said he had to go meet her friends. i let her go but i knew i was in already. she had invested and revealed enough of herself for me to give her justified interest like a howitzer.

So i joined the rest of the boys, ran into the pageant queen at the main entrance and turns out that she's an ex-girlfriend of one of my homies, so i got major social proof for congratulating her and just being seen talking to her. along the night, i met one more pageant girl who was a girl i met during daygame and she introduced me to another contestant.

i roll with Psyche Bond and we make our way to a corner to make out... i mean, finish his drink. as we were talking, i get a text from HBV. i said i was gonna go at 12 and she texted me at 11:55 asking me to dance. Psyche, thanks man, i felt bad to leave you alone but im glad u were cool about it. so off i went, no replies because i didnt wanna waste 5cents on an sms.

The hunt begins

i roll onto the dancefloor, with the "IM A LION" mindset and stare down every body who made eye contact. non-verbal open on a HB8 and did the standard Troy dance off. i watched the HB8 do her thing and gave her a hug for being such a sport. I took a quick glance and i saw HBV in my line of sight. i knew she saw what happened. i motioned for HBV to come over and she ditched her group again and we're dancing. things get heated up as HBV burned the dance floor. the guys who were trying to get her attention are mesmerised. im soaking-in this shit. SOI. boom, we're grinding like gears in a clock. im kissing her and biting her on her neck and shoulders like she was an oreo cheesecake. she smelt and tasted good.

hide : dancing with you sucks!

HBV : what?? why?!

hide : because ure a great dancer and you make me look like i can't dance!

HBV : come on, im sure u can!

hide : well i do know this one move.

HBV : alright, what is it?

hide : well, it involves your lips and mine.

HBV: "you've gotta be smoother than that boy." i laughed, what a snazzy bitch, i thought.

Right then and there, I sexualized the interaction

so we dance some more and i find out that she might have forgotten to wear a bra. "What kinda devil doesn't wear a bra to a club?" she laughs. "i have to tame you!" so i tame her with a bite on her left ear. she moans and summons the caveman in me. i turn her around and drop the FOCUS BUBBLE.

*hands holding her head*

hide: "HBV... i think you are too sexy not to make out with."

hungry-eyes, triangular gazes and raw vibe, we kiss and i get tongued down like i was a goodwood park hotel mooncake. i push her away after 3 seconds and tell her that i didn't wanna start a fire. the sexual tension was electrifying. the 4 caucasian dudes who were watching this started tapping me on my back. i was the man of the moment. no more free entertainment boys, ISOLATION TIME!

i pull her to the side and made out with her some more. i pull sexual barriers left, right, centre and started to iron out the logistics. i asked her who she was with and just then, her friends smsed her and she wanted to go meet them. time for SOCIAL INVESTMENT. we roll out to meet her friends, her clinging onto me like i was life-support.

man, major shit-testing and amogging here. i wish i had a wing for this. but true value beats false displays of alphaness and i get no. closed by the 2 guys. the other chick in the group was cute and i made a mental note to get to know this girl a little better. HBV tests my neediness throwing in hooks everyone once in a while while i talked to her friends. this is going no where, i made a quick logsitical assessment and decide that im gonna leave this battle and come back with reinforcements next time! i excuse myself with grace and went back to my boys.

The 1st Date

With my eyes on the big picture, I walked away without being needy to live to fight another day. HBV lives 8 minutes from my place, so a week later, we met for our first date. Logistical perfection SEALS THE DEAL.

We met at a quiet cafe closer to my house for the CREDIBILITY DATE. She got to see me in my element and saw real cred, which was completely congruent with the personality she was first exposed to in the club. The staff and I bantered happily and humorously and HBV just had to join in. The vibe was too irresistable. The date turned out to be wonderful and romantic. Dimmed lights, great conversation, an intimate vibe as well as lots of laughter. During the 2 hours we were there, I built sexual tension. eg.

Xavier : "Damn Ganesh (the waiter)."

HBV : omg why would you say that?

Xavier : -sexual vibe and eye contact- babe, the lights are down, im having such a great time and im with you... he kinda spoils it.

HBV : Haha how is he spoiling it.

Xavier : Well, for one, I -stroke her arm with the outside of my fingers- am wondering if there are other parts of your body as sexy as your arms...

HBV : -dark smile-

-lean in closer-

Xavier : -pulling back- but yea, we'll never know since Ganesh is around here.

So a lot of this kinda talk was going on and as the time went by, we started making out more until I said the magic words, "Let's Go." I settle the bill and we're on the way to my house. The short journey in my car was mostly humourous and kinky roleplay talk about going into deep detail about stuff i'd do to her belly and other parts of her body.

When we got to my house... well, the rest, as they say, is history


Lessons to be learnt :

- A lot of logistics planning ran through my head before I made my moves. Zouk was a place I frequented so I knew my logistics. I cannot stress how important it is. Guys, find out a spot where you can : have a conversation, have space to dance, a quiet escalation spot on the dancefloor, a place outside the club to make out.

- Respect the social logistics. When I see friends, I do not regard them as obstacles. I regard them as potential teammates. I usually win them over by vibing with them and just making small talk and letting them see my genuine interest in the girl. People mess with you only because they are worried you might mess with them. If they see that you are a cool and non-threatening guy, they'll leave you alone.

- Looking at the big picture is what allowed the lay to happen. When you know it's gonna happen, you will be more patient with the lay. I knew that logistics were not great for the lay that night, so I found out what I needed to know and got her out the following week instead. During the time that lead-up to the date, I flirted and built sexual tension with her, thus when the lay happened in a few hours, no resistance whatsoever.

- A Credibility date makes it virtually impossible for her to reject you. It is really helpful as it accomplishes a few things :

1) Shows that you are a loved and wanted man (Especially if you've dated the waitresses before!)
2) Vibing is supremely easy because of you being comfortable in your own element.

- Sexual Tension for the win guys. Keep an eye out for "restrictions" to play your sexual desire for her against. Don't be desperate, but go crazy with the dirty talk and you will find that the only escalation problem you have will probably be keeping her at bay.

Thanks for reading

Xavier