Hey Guys,

I'm here to learn so I'm going to be brutally honest.

I'm a 27-year old, typical conservative, passive nice guy. I was married for 2 years (lived with her for 3 before that, she was my dance partner at the time) and am now divorced.

Up until now, I've been painfully shy, to the point where ordering a pizza or even making a post on a forum like this brought about anxiety, worrying
about what others might think of me, or judge me. The typical guy that hates making waves, confrontation, etc. etc.

That's why I got into dancing salsa and ballroom, to try and get over the shyness. In addition to that -- prior to getting married --
I had come across PUA crap and even took a Mystery bootcamp before he was all famous and stuff.

Turns out it didn't help. It was more about watching how great Mystery was while I was left on the sidelines (whatever, I still managed to bag a great wife without wearing platform boots and talking about two girls fighting outside.)

Since my divorce, I messed around a little, and then finally decided to pursue ballroom dancing more seriously (its one of my passions. absolutely love it) and moved from South Florida out West.

Now that I'm somewhat settled, I reluctantly decided to rejoin the PUA "community" and ended up at CA.

That's how I discovered Troy, the mofo that got to my core...

I was listening to a recording of Troy talking about clubs, and there came a point in the audio where he said something that totally fucked with my head.

He asked the audience, "Dude, if you were a girl, would you fuck yourself?"

I tell you, that one question took me for a serious loop.

I had to be honest with myself and answer "no."

And that caused a chain reaction in my thinking that made me question how I got to the point where I'm divorced, in a new city with no friends, and a fucking terrible dry spell...

...Then I listened to the foundations audio...

YET AGAIN, I was forced to really look at myself and the reality of my situation--

I've been totally passive. Haven't been making things happen. Living paycheck to paycheck.

Shit, I'm the guy who hasn't even bought a mattress because I thought of myself as "smart" and "practical" and chose to sleep on an Aerobed blow up mattress.

What a paradigm shift I've experienced. And Troy, thanks man. I owe you one.

I now realize I have to invest in myself. I've got to get "over" myself and out of my head.

I've got to love and appreciate myself, and build myself up despite what others may think.

Suffice to say, I'm now becoming a force of nature. Making things happen.

I just started working out now and eating right, instead of eating McDonald's and Burger King every day.

I'm taking control of my finances and creating financial freedom for myself.

And I'm dancing my ass off to get better, little by little.

Slowly but surely, I'm taking control of my social/dating life. And quite frankly, once I'm where I want to be, I REALLY want to help other chumps like my soon to be "former" self. Cause it sucks. It's painful... damn painful.

And quite frankly, I now know there's no need to stay in that pain.

I realize there are no microwave results. This is going to be a process, and it won't happen overnight (I'm glad cause I'm pretty tired of reading ebook after ebook searching for the one "magic bullet" that will solve everything).

Thanks again Troy. From the bottom of my heart. I appreciate your no-bullshit honesty.

-- Ballroomnut

P.S. By the way, Get ready, cause I'm saving up for a PI with you. I WILL become the guy women are naturally attracted to.

WOW WOW and WOW.

Now THAT is how its done.

Look into the Mirror and ask yourself if you would fuck yourself as a girl Is a hard pill to swallow. Most guys either accept the reality that there are weeds in the garden and there are a host of others who either are so delusional to the fact that there are weeds or just plain shy away from looking at themselves in the mirror. But, let me just say that those bold enough to ask themselves such a question are rewarded with as you said, a "chain reaction" of realizations that set them on a course to success.

People think that when I speak on the audio I'm pretty arrogant or what I say hurts or stings. The "Majority" or the "Grey Area" crowd might be put off by most of what I say, but let me just say that its guys like you that inspires me to keep lighting up a fire on everyone's asses and hope that it hits their core and gets their engines revved up to be awesome. Its time to take control of your life and I'm glad the message got to you.

One day, you'll be where you want to be and you will soon light a fire on everyone's asses. You will soon realize that the male society has a sickness, and its that they can't get over their own ego to realize they need help or need to improve. You're one of the lucky ones who realized it.

See you on your PI someday. It would be my pleasure.

Troy